The only sure way to obtain the real and lasting happiness we seek is simply to pray from the bottom of our hearts to our teacher - and practice the Dharma in the proper way.
Through the natural law of cause and effect, and through the blessings of the Three Jewels, in all our future lives, our home will be where the Dharma flourishes, we will always meet spiritual teachers, and we will continually make progress towards enlightenment - a huge result from such a small amount of effort.
Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche
Is it difficult for you to be good to yourself? If you are good to yourself then you are good to everybody. If you do good things to benefit others it is good for you. If you do harmful actions against others it is bad for you. That is a fact.
So in order to be good to yourself you have to be good to others, in order to be truthful to yourself you have to be truthful to others, and in order to be kind to yourself you have to be kind to
others. You cannot be kind to yourself by being cruel to others and you cannot be honest to yourself by being dishonest to others. So this is very simple common sense.
Tai Situ Rinpoche
Sometimes, you may encounter situations that require strong countermeasures. I believe, however, that you can take a strong stand and even take strong countermeasures out of a feeling of compassion, or a sense of concern for the other, rather than out of anger.
One of the reasons why there is a need to adopt a very strong countermeasure against someone is that if you let it pass - whatever the harm or the crime that is being perpetrated against you -
then there is a danger of that person habituating in a very negative way, which, in reality, will cause that individual's own downfall, which is very destructive in the long run for that individual -
himself or herself. Therefore a strong countermeasure is necessary, but with this thought in mind, you can do it out of compassion and concern for that individual.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama