Look at your life. Look at the ways in which you define who you are and what you’re capable of achieving. Look at your goals. Look at the pressures applied by the people around you and the culture in which you were raised. Look again. And again. Keep looking until you realize, within your own experience, that you’re so much more than who you believe you are. Keep looking until you discover the wondrous heart, the marvelous mind, that is the very basis of your being.
It is said that if all the wise beings came together and contemplated for aeons and aeons about which is the most beneficial thing one could ever have, they wouldn’t find anything more exalted than bodhicitta - the compassionate wish to attain the enlightened state of a Buddha for the benefit of all beings.
Denma Locho Rinpoche
Self-clinging is the source of all our problems. It is the basic ignorance from which all the disturbing emotions start.
If there is a self, then there are others, and if there is a self and others, there is attachment to the self and anger towards others.
This situation creates the basic three disturbing emotions, which are desire, anger, and ignorance. From these three arise others, such as jealousy, pride, miserliness, etc.
Once these disturbing emotions are present, they soon develop into physical, verbal and mental actions. When we perform such actions, it is like planting a seed which leads to the growth of suffering.
His Holiness Sakya Trizin