No matter how trapped we may feel by anxiety, depression, or guilt, there is always another option available to us, and one that doesn't ask us to stop feeling what we already feel, or to stop being who and what we are.
When we know where to look, and how to look, we can find peace of mind in the midst of raging emotions, profound insight in the midst of complete confusion, and the seeds of compassion in our darkest moments, even when we feel completely lost and alone.
When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. Perception is not reality. What appear to be faults in others may actually be reflections of our own emotional afflictions. I don't have an attitude problem; you have a perception problem.
Remember the way people treat us is their karma. The way we react is our own.
If, as you meditate on mind training, your personality becomes stiff with pride and arrogance, its as though you have reduced a god to a demon; dharma has become non-dharma. The more you meditate on mind training and dharma, the more supple your personality should become. Act as the lowest servant to everyone.
Jamgon Kongtrul Lodro Thaye