The very purpose of religion is to control yourself, not to criticize others. Rather, we must criticize ourselves.
How much am I doing about my anger? About my attachment, about my hatred, about my pride, my jealousy?
These are the things which we must check in daily life.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama
Mental calming implies as much clarity as possible, allied with a deep feeling of freedom.
When we contemplate the sea during the day we can see stones and seaweed deep down through the clear water.
Our meditation should have the same clarity, which allows us to be fully conscious of the present situation.
The Buddha proved definitively that mere meditative concentration is not sufficient to gain liberation. Through this kind of meditation alone, one ends up in the realms of the meditation gods and the Formless Realms, states which in themselves definitely do not lead out of samsara.
There is a famous quote: “If you know how to meditate, but not how to be free, then aren’t you just like the meditation gods?”
So, it’s very important to know how to liberate your deluded thinking. That is the vital point.
Tulku Urgyen Rinpoche
Viewing our experience in this world as a dream, Siddhartha found that our habit of fixating on the mere appearance of our dreamlike relative world, thinking that it is truly existing, throws us into an endless cycle of pain and anxiety.
We are in a deep sleep, hibernating like a silkworm in a cocoon. We have woven a reality based on our projections, imagination, hopes, fears, and delusions.
Our cocoons have become very solid and sophisticated. Our imaginings are so real to us that we are trapped in the cocoon. But we can free ourselves simply by realizing that this is all our imagination.
Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche